Helping Children to be Grown Up

Why is this child, the greater the more recalcitrant parents, and the more mature? This is one phrase that is often put forward their parents of adolescents. A new baby boy, as a rule, want to always show that he was an adult. He usually does not want more regulated by parents and he always want to make their own decisions. For example, he still decided to go to the store to buy gluten-iron, because the toy unconsciously broken by brother, or he was still with the parents of his girlfriend, even ban it.

Child of Resistance, as indicated above, it is not directly addressed the parents with negative attitudes (anger). Give understanding and support of the child, praising his actions truly reflect the maturity (responsibility and fulfill their promises). For example, for the above case, saying he was against the parents, because he wants to be responsible for any damage done to his sister's toy, or he wants to fulfill his promise, he agreed with his friend. Variations and stability behavior of adolescents is one expression, because he wanted to prove that he is alone or in adulthood.

If parents do not try to understand why the "resistance" of children, because good communication is not established will not dispute that may end up with resentment towards each other. They both accuse each other assume no sense. Parents think their children are not obedient. So a child, she can assume parents always possible or interfere with business.

To become an adult is not an easy process, but not something that is very difficult. The need for support, which must be respected in the learning process. According to Jacob Azerrad (2005) taught children to be able to behave autonomously and as adults they teach children how he should behave in the outside world. This is due to the fact that children can encounter various problems and challenges that may occur in his life. In addition, children should also learn to not influenced by other orangutan, because it has a value in it, that strong, which take care behavior and help in making own decision. Parents should teach children and implement it in everyday life, how to behave in an adult, autonomous, independent, caring and responsibility. In summing up, hopefully, children will grow into responsible adults and expected a lot of people.