There are also children who told me that he rarely gets the credit for what he did, especially in terms of value gained in the school. The value of what he got was always less in the eyes of their parents, even though these children had learned to the maximum.
It's from my observation, the child was not exceptional in terms of child achievement, ordinary child. To get a value of 80 is a tough struggle for this child. And when it gets the value 80, there is a sense of pride in his chest, how she wants to get attention and recognition from her parents for having got an 80 which he seldom get. But what earned this child when he handed the test results with a bright face and a smile to his parents?
"Do not rush to be happy with that much value. You should get the value of 100 or a minimum of 90, that was just a child of Mama! "or sometimes also their parents say," unusually, can this hour, usually 50 or 60, also the highest 70 ! Did you cheat? "
How the hard work of children who had such ability is not appreciated by people who actually hoped to give encouragement, provide motivation for more advanced. Let alone getting recognition for its success, than the attention it feels hard.
How a child will thrive if it's always judged less, or even always compared with others' success. Although the attitude or the chat of parent only, without intending to offend or hurt her feelings. However, the perceived negative impact of children, much heavier and will always be negative suggestibility in their life.
Let us ponder, what will happen to our children that every day a child gets a negative word, lowered, dropped his motivation, did not recognize the effort and hard work?
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